Statue Costs and Your Spouse

[Barbarian]

Originally Posted by TNovak

Yeah but if you're married it SEEMS a lot longer.

Booyah!

[gorocketcat]

Originally Posted by ratchet

None of the options really apply to me. As long as the bills are paid and we're not strapped for cash then the topic never comes up. She doesn't ask and I don't say. If she'd ask I would tell her. She really has no interest in my collection.

This is kind of the key. As long as both parties are responsible and important money payments are made, and a decent amount is being saved for the future, then spend what you will on what you want.

I know that this forum is about statues, and the topic is about spending on statues, but it really extends out to any hobby you have interest in. Don't be embarrassed or ashamed of what you enjoy, and don't let a relationship get in the way of it. I see far too many husbands who stop being themselves, and abandon their hobbies because a wife enters into a relationship with the intent of changing them. (I'm sure it happens vice versa as well, I just don't hang out with many wives.) Fine, you're a couple now, and do things as a unit - but you're still two individuals.

This thread is starting to run its course, but basically it boils down to mutual respect. It's not a "she's not changing me, I'm a MAN! A MANLY MANLY MAN!" nor is it a "I have to hide my purchases and lie because I'm afraid of her". Be an adult, respect him/her, and yourself. Marry a friend, not a boss.

[Dirt Torpedo]

I lie, so if she leaves she won't get half of the true value. Same with my watches, guitars and car.

[Y3E]

Originally Posted by Atheris

Even if you lied, how can they not know? It's called google...the company name and name of the statue is on the side of the box.

Chris

Originally Posted by ratchet

None of the options really apply to me. As long as the bills are paid and we're not strapped for cash then the topic never comes up. She doesn't ask and I don't say. If she'd ask I would tell her. She really has no interest in my collection.

There are times where she'll ask if I have any money left over after a con or something - but that's just because she wants to go to Sizzler!

Originally Posted by gorocketcat

This is kind of the key. As long as both parties are responsible and important money payments are made, and a decent amount is being saved for the future, then spend what you will on what you want.

I know that this forum is about statues, and the topic is about spending on statues, but it really extends out to any hobby you have interest in. Don't be embarrassed or ashamed of what you enjoy, and don't let a relationship get in the way of it. I see far too many husbands who stop being themselves, and abandon their hobbies because a wife enters into a relationship with the intent of changing them. (I'm sure it happens vice versa as well, I just don't hang out with many wives.) Fine, you're a couple now, and do things as a unit - but you're still two individuals.

This thread is starting to run its course, but basically it boils down to mutual respect. It's not a "she's not changing me, I'm a MAN! A MANLY MANLY MAN!" nor is it a "I have to hide my purchases and lie because I'm afraid of her". Be an adult, respect him/her, and yourself. Marry a friend, not a boss.

I may joke around in my posts but you guys are right. My wife is smart and it would be stupid to think I can trick her regarding the prices of these statues. She knows how much these things cost and doesn't like what I spend on them, but the bills are paid, the family is fed, we still do the things we want, so it is good. We both have our hobbies and when they get out of hand then it is time re-evaluate what is important.

Happy collecting!

[Python]

Originally Posted by Zombiez

It's very sad knowing so many men are weak willed cowards that are obviously under their wives control... I mean seriously some "men " should grow a pair.

We can't all be big balled "real men" like you... I mean some of us treat our partners as equals, weird I know right.

[Roy Batty]

Originally Posted by ComicJesus

My wife knows I spend a lot, just not how much. She is supportive, and all the important bills get paid first, and whatever is left gets spent. She knows that.

Same here. Been married 18 years and it's my only vice. She knew beforehand about my collecting.

[Zombiez]

Originally Posted by Python

We can't all be big balled "real men" like you... I mean some of us treat our partners as equals, weird I know right.

Lol if you have to ask permission to buy something or hide your property from someone then you are not their equal.

[SAB380]

My wife doesn't care what I spend.
She hates how much room 1/4 and 1/3 statues take up though.

[Python]

Originally Posted by Zombiez

Lol if you have to ask permission to buy something or hide your property from someone then you are not their equal.

I don't have to, I don't think I've seen anybody else say they do either. But two grown ups in a relationship talking over large purchases is very different to having to ask permission. And your male dominant views are archaic. I'm guessing you're extremely single...

[I and I]

Like my spouse already mentioned, we collect together (statues, games, comics and boardgames) . We both know exactly how much everything costs. Disadvantage.. we want a lot so we have to much stuff