Valentine's Dilemma...Advice needed!

[rychehitman]

See, you SHOULD have broke it off a week before Christmas, and avoided that one too! Then get her back on the 18th. You havent even been with her for a year, so that would have been acceptable!

[Tattoo-S]

Originally Posted by Collection King 13

Valentine's Day is Feb. 14th

So you drew the short straw and had to post this as a reminder for all other men of the date.....LOL

I will be with my GF, Tina, for one year on Feb 17th

Congratulations....they say the first year is always the hardest....I am on year 15 (I will LYK how it turns out!) [/Quote]

Should I send flowers for both Holidays? Should I buy a nice big combination gift? or should I celebrate them both separately? What would you guys do? I dont even know what to get her! HELP!

E~Speaking as a woman (who's birthday is Valentines Day) I think I can offer you some solid advise. It is Never a good idea to group a holiday and an anniversary together. Especially Valentines Day. Valentines Day has been commercialized into the holiday of "Love", if you try to incorporate the Anniversary into the same celebration, she will think you selfish, shallow and lacking imagination. She will feel that you didn't think she was worth the time, the effort or the $$ to give consideration to on both days. It does suck, but this is how most women think. You want things to go smoothly.....you need to lavish your affection on her to no end on Valentines Day. You want to give her surprises......balloons at work, flowers in her car, dinner out, and a beautiful piece of jewelry or nightwear. Nothing too fancy, an nice pair of earings with her dessert, or a teddy just before bed. She will need to feel that it is all about her. If she is a smart women, she will do the same for you.....(you know without the earings or Teddy....but hell maybe thats what you want....what do I know.) Heheheheh

Another little tip.....Write something meaningful in the card. Women always keep the cards (as evidence....) Pay someone to write something meaningful, but make sure you memorize it before giving it away. LOL! You might even try mailing this so that she actually gets it the day before, this will eliminate some of her anticipation and your surprises will have greater worth.

Come your Anniversary, you want to do things that she wants to do, you want to ask her what she wants, and be willing to comply.


Ordinarily I don't get involved in matters of the Heart, but what the Hell! It's good advice. Good Luck

[Tattoo-S]

Originally Posted by Crom

Give her the day off. She has put up with you for a year. No doubt her Sainthood is up for a vote at the Vatican.

Women don't get voted into Sainthood, it is automatically granted at the end of the 2nd date........LOL

[Eye of Agamotto]

My wife's b-day is Feb 11th and Valentine day of course is Feb 14th. I celebrate them separately and it has been good so far (10 years), her B-day more than the V-day as far as gifts or surprises go. In your case the anniversary is probably more important so my opinion is more emphases on making that day special. Congrats by the way, good luck.

[Zurbaran1]

Originally Posted by Collection King 13

Valentine's Day is Feb. 14th and I will be with my GF, Tina, for one year on Feb 17th... Now here's my dilemma... Should I send flowers for both Holidays? Should I buy a nice big combination gift? or should I celebrate them both separately? What would you guys do? I dont even know what to get her! HELP!

She's been with you one year? Send me her address so I can send her a condolence card.

[Zurbaran1]

Originally Posted by Tattoo S

...... she will think you selfish, shallow and lacking imagination...

You've pretty much described him to a T.

[Collection King 13]

Originally Posted by Zurbaran1

You've pretty much described him to a T.

I hate you!!!!!

[Comicboy]

Yep CK you have to seperate them. It's the only way you make it past the 17th intact. Valentines is pretty easy to deal with. Look at Valentines Day as a test, women do. Go big on her b-day, thats where it really counts. It helps that her b-day is on a Friday.

[Collection King 13]

Originally Posted by Comicboy

Yep CK you have to seperate them. It's the only way you make it past the 17th intact. Valentines is pretty easy to deal with. Look at Valentines Day as a test, women do. Go big on her b-day, thats where it really counts. It helps that her b-day is on a Friday.

CB - her b-day is not until August... its our 1 year annv. on Friday.

[Bullseye]

CK we all have the same three occassions to celebrate. Throw in Christmas (Catholic) and then Orthodox (her religion) and i have one extra.