Thanks, man.
When I'm home, I'm honestly giving our relationship 150%, but my wife always has hang-ups, or issues.. that keep her from wanting to be even remotely "with" me, in any sense of the word. Before we got married, there were no issues, but after we got married, every issue we work past, she comes up with something new. Why do I keep changing who I am for her, and keep doing every little thing she wants me to do, when she meets any suggestion of mine (whether it be for myself, or for us as a couple.. reasonable suggestions that ANY normal married couple partakes in at least once a f#ckin' year, for crap's sake.. it's been three years for us) with hostility and hate, for the most part? She had a "crummy childhood", but it's like.. yeah.. that was over twenty years ago... this is the here and now. I'm not being insensitive, she honestly can't put the past IN the past, though. Her therapy of the last 15 years doesn't help her, and we were very "active" before we got married.. now she's honestly a hostile person who hates the world and herself. I met her in '02, got married in '04.. and now I feel like I may have jumped the gun on this.
And I'm the exact opposite.
I'm not just referring to sex, by the way. She has problems sleeping in the same bed as me, even. Should I be discussing this? Probably not... but honestly... doing so keeps me from going crazy.
Seriously.
She does try and support my career, though, as she herself isn't working.. and she's recently gone back to school to finish her Master's... but I honestly feel like and AM more of a roommate than a husband.
Which sucks.
Sorry for throwin' this laundry out there.
It's good to have friends and family that I can talk to about this, though.
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Originally Posted by touche22
Ry, there was a very rough time shortly after Donna and I got married (we had lived together for 4 years prior) and we actually spearated for about 3 months....that was 8 years ago. Things in life are often not as easy as they should be, or that we want them to be. Bottom line is to really figure out what is best for you....but to come to that conclusion fully and in a clear state no matter which way you go. Just my experience to hopefully help you during yours.
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