Girlfriends and Collecting...

JusticeIsBlind · 01-10-2010, 07:44 PM

hi, i dont post here often but i visit daily. Im sorry if this in the wrong section MODs.

Anyway iv been with my new girlfriend nearly 4 months, my girlfriend before her never really had a problem with my collecting she found it kinda cute. However, my new girlfriend isnt too keen, i showed her my collection room and she was quite impressed at first but since then shes called it childish among other things. I havent bought any new statues since being with her, ive sold a lot of my collection but im starting to think why should i change who i am for someone. What would you guys do? Would you just keep it to yourself and not mention the hobby?

Thanks for reading

P.S i didnt have a massive collection but it was slowly getting there.

BekkHansStudio · 01-10-2010, 07:46 PM

Start Collecting statues of your X-girlfriends in not so good phoses... Then if she becomes trouble you say... Do you want to end up on that shelf?

Or a nice one... Comission a statue of her in a good phose.

lord odin · 01-10-2010, 07:49 PM

I wouldn't sell one piece unless I wanted to.
You have been with her for 4 months and you have problems/regrets so it's only going to get worse the longer you stay with her/collect while being with her.
Get out now or make a choice soon.
That's all the Dr.Phil advice I have for you.

**Vince-Vell** · 01-10-2010, 07:51 PM

Id drop her like a ton of bricks. If she wants to mold you into what she wants and not let you be herself, you prob wont end up happy in the long run.

Minute i start to date someone and they give me chit about my hobby its over, the ones who dont care and let me be me are the ones i was happy with.

But the minute children get brought up, thats a deal breaker too.....

Alex655321 · 01-10-2010, 07:52 PM

I think part of a healthy relationship is understanding and accepting what each other likes.

If she can't accept your hobby that is important to you then it might be time for a new girlfriend.

It's not like you started collecting after you met her.

koten · 01-10-2010, 07:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Alex655321

I think part of a healthy relationship is understanding and accepting what each other likes.

If she can't accept your hobby that is important to you then it might be time for a new girlfriend.

It's not like you started collecting after you met her.

This is quality advice right here. Listen to this man!

Trilogy · 01-10-2010, 08:01 PM

If she doesn't like you for who you truly are, she's not the women for you.

01-10-2010, 08:12 PM

If she just said it was childish and didn't really care, I'd say no big deal. But if she said a lot of other negative stuff about it, that's a bad sign.

As long as statue collecting isn't a negative influence on your life (you're spending too much money, for example) then it shouldn't be a relationship issue. If she's making it one, have a talk with her. Might be something she can't get over.

El Diablo · 01-10-2010, 08:13 PM

Keep the statues, get rid of her. Though ideally keep in touch for the ocassional casual sex

Sledge Hammer! · 01-10-2010, 08:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Alex655321

I think part of a healthy relationship is understanding and accepting what each other likes.

If she can't accept your hobby that is important to you then it might be time for a new girlfriend.

It's not like you started collecting after you met her.

Exactly, if she can't accept you for who you are, with all of your little quirks, whatever they may happen to be, but instead wants to mold you into who she wants you to be, then that's a pretty bad sign for any long term relationship possibilities in my opinion.

I mean she doesn't have to understand the appeal of why and what you collect, but if she can't even accept that that's just a part of who you are, and that it might mean something to you, then she's probably not the right person for you.

You know, says the single guy...